Nicole Hoffmann, PLMHP, ATR-P- June 28, 2022
It is easy to compromise or sacrifice so much for or with your partner that you start to lose yourself in your relationship. One day you may stop and realize, “Who am I? What do I want and need? How did this happen?” It is a very isolating, fearful feeling.
Here are some tips to maintain who you are while in a romantic relationship:
1.Maintain ‘me’ time. It is easy to always want to spend time or enjoy hobbies with your significant other. However, it is important to do things you enjoy on your own, also. Remember your personality, quirks, likes and dislikes, and spend time cultivating them.
2.Spend time with family and friends. Sometimes people cut family and friends out of their lives over time, in order to spend most of their time with their partner. This can lead to isolation and resentment, especially if the relationship declines. It is important to keep family and friends close, in order to maintain an honest, well-rounded circle of support around you.
3.Set boundaries with your partner. When you start dating someone, it is optimal to set boundaries early. How much space do each of you need? What things are most important to you? You should be with someone who likes you for you. Clear communication and understanding will help set the relationship off on the right foot.
4.Continue to think logically. Even though new love can be exciting and all-consuming, it is important to continue to think logically. Think about what you value most in your life, and what you need to be happy in your own space.
5.Let go if you need to. Not all relationships are fairy tales, and sometimes it is best to end something that isn’t authentic or isn’t good for you. Breakups are painful to move through, but finding the person you are meant to be with is worth it in the end.
If you are struggling with how to maintain your identity in a relationship, please reach out to us at Creative Counseling and Studio by calling (402) 401-4445 or visit https://www.creativecounselingandstudio.com.
Source: “9 Things You Can Do To Avoid Losing Your Identity While in a Relationship” by Taylor DuVall. https://thoughtcatalog.com/taylor-duvall/2015/10/9-things-you-can-do-to-avoid-losing-your-identity-while-in-a-relationship/. Accessed June 23, 2022.